Listening and Planning: Navigating the Journey of Caring for Aging Parents with Pensacola, Florida based law firm Trusted Elder Law & Asset Protection

Remember the times when our parents would earnestly remind us of the rules before taking the car out? Their faces inches away, they would ask, "Are you listening?" We'd nod, our thoughts already racing towards the adventure ahead. Now, as adults, those same parents are looking to us for guidance as they face the challenges of aging. Are we truly listening to their needs?

Consider Julie, who lives hundreds of miles from her frail, elderly mother. Every evening, Julie checks in with her, and every time the conversation follows a similar pattern:

"How are you doing today, Mom?" Julie asks. "Everything's fine," Mother replies. "Are you taking your pills?" "Yes, everything's fine." "Do you need anything?" "Everything's fine."

But is everything really fine? Perhaps it is, or perhaps her mother wants Julie to believe she's self-sufficient. Alternatively, her mother might genuinely think everything's fine while possibly forgetting her medication or neglecting proper meals. Is Julie truly listening? And are you?

It might be time to put ourselves in front of our parents and truly listen.

Assuming that our elderly loved ones have everything under control might be risky. Forming a partnership with them in their care is crucial, especially before a crisis strikes. Donna Schempp, a licensed clinical social worker and program director at the Family Caregiver Alliance, suggests that initiating these conversations sooner rather than later is key. By addressing the subject before your parents require extra support, you can avoid the perception of crisis. It becomes a proactive approach, not a way of saying, "There's something wrong with you."

Starting these conversations could be as simple as sitting down with your parents and asking about their concerns for the future. Do they wish to remain in their home? Are they concerned about losing their independence? Listening to their answers is essential. It's an opportunity to share your concerns and desire to assist.

In becoming a partner in planning for their care, understanding their legal and financial arrangements is vital. Questions like, "Mom, what if you were to have a stroke? Where can I find your medical and insurance documents? What would you want me to do on your behalf?" lay the foundation for a collaborative approach.

Accompanying them to doctor appointments helps understand their medical needs and aids in creating a plan for the future.

Trusted Elder Law & Asset Protection is here to guide you on this journey. With 22 years of experience, we specialize in Elder Law, Medicaid Planning, Estate Planning, Probate and Asset Preservation. As your parents' needs evolve, our expertise ensures their well-being, safety, and legacy are secured. Contact Trusted Elder Law by calling 850-607-2222 or toll free at 855-ELDER-FIRM or visiting us on the web at www.TrustedElderLaw.com



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